Men are more concerned with their partner’s body type than women but they also seem to value family more highly, according to a new survey released on Tuesday.

Nearly half of men questioned in the poll of 70,000 people said they would ditch a partner who gained weight, compared to only 20 percent of women.

Before you dismiss men as shallow, consider this: Men on an average are ugly. Women on an average are more beautiful. The median handsome man is uglier than the median beautiful woman. Like, way uglier. Consider an equal number of men and women and match them one-to-one in order of their handsomeness. The 30th most handsome man would be paired with the 30th most beautiful woman — who will be way more beautiful than him. If she drops on the scale of beauty — let’s say she’s now the 50th — he still has a good chance of being with 20 other woman out of his league and who are on a linear scale. Here I assume that women are linear on the scale of beauty and men are non-linear. In that, among men there is clutter towards the ugly and the handsome is very very sparse. Totally my guess.

Now the same argument doesn’t apply to men. If a man falls from 30th to 50th, the woman doesn’t have much to gain by being with those between 30 and 50. Therefore, it shouldn’t be a surprise that men appear to be shallow towards beauty and women appear to be forgiving about beauty. It’s just math.

You could dismiss this argument in its entirety and fallback on Men Are Shallow. In which case, I’ll add one more feminist to the readership.


Yeah yeah personality, sense of humour, confidence and all that matters too — but more so for men. That’s how we differentiate ourselves in the clutter.


The above study clearly doesn’t apply to Indians otherwise all marriages I know would’ve ended.


Further reading: Stable marriage problem.